If Mama Ain’t Happy
The cliché is familiar: if Mama ain’t happy, then nobody’s happy. Now ain’t that the truth? In a world where all truth is based on arbitrary language, even the most tolerant person will agree with the power of a happy or unhappy Mama.
Our media constantly suggests ways to make us happy: buying Earth-friendly cleansers, a day of pampering, a bigger diamond, a pair of funky shoes, or a Carnival Cruise. Or maybe our Happiness Tank is filled more easily with time on the phone or shopping. Sometimes it’s a day spent outside soaking up the sun or a couple of hours at the gym that reverses our whole outlook. Finding something to make us happy is easy. Try pin-pointing what makes women unhappy. . .
1. How We Got Here to Our Unhappy Place
It is sad that so many of us women (whether or not you’re a Mama) spend our days (and nights) rejecting. We can’t even utter a simple thank you to our man when he brings home that gift certificate to the Nail Place because, after all, if we’d had the money for that type of thing, we would’ve spent it on ourselves already. Not only do we have a hard time accepting a free gift — which we so desperately wanted in the first place — we also have difficulty accepting nothing. We want to be loved, accepted, and validated by people or so many temporal things. We have a need to fill our hearts with something, but we often fill it with something temporarily. Our basic problem of sin and fallenness rears its head wearing any number of masks. We end up deeply unhappy because sin is engrained in us.
2. How to Get Happy
Even though the media encourages us to spend money to get happy, I believe that Money doesn’t buy happiness, it decreases it. I find that when I’m not happy, that I need to shift my focus from myself to God. The real answer to the question “how to get happy” is simple: Trust Jesus Christ. I know, it sounds too easy, too cliché, too Last-Century. But seriously, when I completely trust God for everything that falls under the category of “This Life” (and The next), I find Him completely reliable. Take your concerns to God. Talk to Him as a friend and release everything that’s bothering you.
3. How to Stay Happy
So if you’ve put yourself and everything that falls under the category of “This Life” into the hand of God through Jesus Christ — then what? What about the daily pursuit of Happy? Consider the following thoughts and Scriptures:
- Keep your expectations at zero (Psalm 62.5).
- Leave place for God to work (Philippians 1:6, Romans 12: 19).
- Pray a blessing on others (Romans 12:14).
- Find the silver lining and point it out (Psalm 16, especially vv. 5 and 11).
- Think of others more important than yourself (Philippians 2.5).
- Give thanks (1 Thessalonians 5:18, Ephesians 5:20).
- Choose contentment (1 Timothy 6: 6-8,11).
- Be all there (Psalm 69:9, Colossians 3:17).
- Spread out the gratification (1 Corinthians 10:23-24, Psalm 106: 13-15).
- Focus on your circle (Acts 2:42-47).
The bright joy we have in Jesus is not temporary or fleeting but it can certainly get clouded by our own selfishness. My prayer for you is that you will find abundant, life-filled, deep happiness in your daily walk with Jesus.
by Heather Soukup, Director of Women’s Ministries