A Tribute to Moms
It’s impossible to imagine the reality of motherhood before the fact. From pregnancy to birth, infancy to adolescence, parenting adult children to even death, motherhood brings about an astounding mix of mental, physical, emotional and spiritual agony and joy.
Just when you think you’ve got one stage down, another pops up full of it’s own mix of perplexing complexities. These complexities make motherhood unique for each woman. We can’t duplicate the success of another mom because God in His Sovereignty creates us all different, and our children are different, and our circumstances are different. Thus there are moments of discouragement as we wonder if our weaknesses are going to ruin our children.
No guarantees come with the
job joy of mothering, either. We go in with expectations and sooner or later we realize that if only to preserve our own sanity we have to let go of them. Overwhelming are the feelings of guilt, the sense of failure that comes too often, the hurt when a child disappoints us, the surprise when we see the true cost of sacrifice, the weight of responsibility for this human being; these are just some of the burdens that a mother carries.
And where does she carry them? My doctor once told me I carry my stress in my shoulders and neck. Do I carry the burdens for my children there, too? No, the burdens originate in my love for my children. I love them more than life itself. Love resides in my heart, and my love for my children resides there, too. So it is for you, too.
All this, and yet God says to guard our heart for it is the wellspring of life. Ah, how to do this and love unconditionally and thoroughly and well? Indeed, days come when the wellspring of life has felt depleted and in sore need of renewal; when I didn’t have another drop to give to any of my loved ones. I don’t know a mom for whom this hasn’t been true.
Moms, I give you a humble, simple encouragement if any of the above rings true for you, “Depend on God.” He loves your babies even more than you do. He has a plan for their lives, just as He has for yours. Where your parents fell short, He supplies for you. Where you fall short in your parenting, He will supply for your children. He wants us depending on Him. He created us to need Him. Moms cannot be all sufficient, as much as we want to be. As children mature, they will need to depend on Him, too.
I close with the verse that has renewed my heart more times than I can count. I pray that pondering on the grace and power He provides will bring you the most excellent joy that He alone provides: But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. (2 Corinthians 12:9)
With warm wishes for a meaningful Mother’s Day,
by Jill Cristao, Director of Connections and Communications