Discipling Our Kids
The church’s vision is to follow and connect and make disciples who make disciples. The heart of all our families needs to be to follow Jesus, connect in mutual community as families, and then teach our each other how to be disciplemakers. As parents, we need to be intentional about investing in disciplemaking relationships with all our children. May these words from Tim Addington encourage you in the journey.
T.J. Addington is a Senior Vice President with the EFCA and the leader of ReachGlobal, the international mission of the EFCA. He has served as a pastor, consultant and denominational leader.
Either we disciple our kids or society will do it for us
by T.J. Addington, posted on 01.26.14 at Leading from the Sandbox
Our investment in discipling our kids is one of the most important things that parents do. The sobering truth is that if we don’t make the investment, society will disciple them for us – and that is a scary thought.
What does it mean to disciple our kids? First it means that we model for them what a sold out lifestyle for Jesus looks like: living in grace and extending it to others, thinking like Jesus thinks, aligning our priorities with His and seeing people as He sees them and loving them as He loves them. No son or daughter will miss the point when they see their parents living out a Jesus life.
I also believe that the daily interaction with kids is critical, especially when we are able to relate every day issues to a Jesus lifestyle. This is not about rules or legalism. It is about helping our kids understand that there is no part of life where our commitment to Jesus does not touch. For us, these conversations took place regularly at our dinner table where all kinds of issues were freely discussed and whether serious or humorous matters of faith and life were integrated.
As our kids get older, what about asking them if they would like to be involved in a more intentional discipleship process with their parents. Allow them to pick the materials and then meet, discuss, study and pray. Keep it separate from parenting. This is life on life seeking to understand how God relates to us and how we relate to Him. Many kids will jump at the opportunity.
However you do it, remember that if we don’t disciple our kids, society will do it for us. That particular outsourcing is the cause of generations of kids leaving their faith and it is very sad. We want to leave an intentional spiritual legacy with our kids.
by Ron Kirkeeng, Pastor of Student Ministries